Yellow Pinkies

Happy Birthday to me!

Happy Birthday to me!  My birthday was yesterday and yes, it would have been AWESOME, if I could have posted yesterday, but, I was too busy celebrating. I woke up and my bestie and one of my girlfriend’s took me to brunch at Breadwinners Cafe in Uptown. Super delicious. I hadn’t been there before for brunch, so I was looking forward to it. I was somewhat overwhelmed with the menu because there were so many things to choose from. We sat on the patio which was perfect for people watching since a little bit of everyone walks by and always brings entertainment. 

My girls both bought me gifts and I was totally not expecting that. My girl got me this gold sequins skirt with a gold bracelet from H&M that I happened to talk to her about earlier in the week. I kept telling her how in love with the skirt I was since it reminded me of the sequins skirt Samantha had on in Sex in the City! I figured, if she can rock it, why cant I? Talk about an attentive friend! I love her! 

The bestie hooked me all the way up. She knows I am a complete nut for musicals so she got The Wiz on dvd! Not to mention, it came with a cd of all the songs in musical! Yes I am a such a nerd! 

I really wasn’t trying to make a big deal out of my birthday this year so I really only wanted to spend it with a few people. Last night, we had dinner at Saint Ann’s and it was fabulous. I had the big steak tuna salad and it was great. I rave about Saint Ann’s because I feel like their portions are literally one serving as opposed to other places that give you these massive portions that force you to over eat in the end. (Can you tell I’m on a diet?)  It was 7 of us total and I am absolutely sick that we did not take a picture! Either way, it was my closest girlfriends and my cousins and I could not have asked for anything more. I wanted to go to the strip club or some kind of bar after dinner, as I just wanted to keep a drink in my hand at all time; however, that is not what happened. 3 1/2 drinks and I was done! Like, it was a wrap! I called it a night. I couldn’t have asked for anything more! Saint Ann’s has great drinks!

My Birthday Outfit!

Happy Birthday to me! I should have taken pictures but here’s what I wore! The dress came from Pitaya (check out pitaya.com) it was only $36 and the shoes are Jessica Simpson’s “Colie”. It’s $45 online. I heart Jessica shoes!

Chivalry and traditionalism

I’m a part of a private forum on facebook with one person that I know personally and a bunch of random people that he knows and that have added on friends of their own. In general, we discuss many different topics ranging from dating to “light” politics. This week, they question was posed, “when going on a first date, who do you expect to pay? The man, the woman, or do you go dutch?” The consensus from the women was that, whoever asked whom on the date should pay, which, traditionally, is the man. Most of the men fell in line with traditionalism, respect, and being brought up that the man paying is part of just being a man. This what you do.

On the adverse side of things, there were two men in particular that were completely against having to always pay. They spoke of standing out as women and how you need to show your date that you are trying to be different from any other woman that they have ever dated. They claimed that it was not a money issue, but more of a “being unique as a woman” type issue. 

The more I read about them defending their position their position, I just got more and more frustrated. I kindly posed the questions, the things that you’re saying, the way you’re treating women, would you want your daughter or your mother to be treated this way? These men were actually speaking of how they wanted women to open their doors for them, open the car door for them (even though they clearly have automatic locks), and basically just do what a man would do.

Now, of course they did not admit that they wanted the woman to do what a man would do, but they were certainly insinuating it. My question is is chivalry dead? Is traditionalism dead? What is being taught in households in this day age? All of the things that they were exhibiting would not even be remotely close to being acceptable in my household. Luckily, majority of the men commenting on the post were the antiphrasis of the men that were wanting woman to step into the more “manly” roles, but still, are there more men like the latter out there? I sure hope not!